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Celebrating this momentous day, I raise my virtual glass of champagne to you and to the lovebirds. May it be magical!

By Blogger Clara, at 8:05 PM  

I was a January bride too, in suburban DC - we had sunshine for the wedding and a foot of snow fell during the reception. I hope the weather cooperates enough to create a magical backdrop for the day without interfering in everyone's travel plans. A virtual champagne toast - actually coffee, it's not even 6 a.m. - to the happy couple, all the family and friends, and especially the MOG, who deserves a week at a spa after this!

By Blogger Catherine, at 5:50 AM  

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Friday, January 21, 2005  

1 day to go!!

31 hours to be exact (at the time of this writing, not this posting). The weather forecast is so bad you could weep. There is nothing we can do about it, either. Therefore, we shall carry on. Besides, here is what my favorite horoscope promises:

Why aren't things the way they ought to be? Is there a problem that needs to be fixed? Or does the real difficulty lie in your idea about what ought to be happening. Might you be hanging on to a notion that's based on some dubious assumption. Could there be an element of guilt, or obligation, or unrealistic expectation in that picture you keep forming in your mind's eye? I'm not trying to persuade you that everything is perfect just as it is. Maybe, though, things are actually a lot less imperfect than you fear or imagine. Relax a little this weekend and you may find there's a lot less to sort out than you thought.

Well now. There you have it.

Yesterday I gave TheWeddingDress a splendid pressing. It is a pretty (gorgeous?) dress, but it has always looked like a project to me because it needed that special careful pressing. Lawsee what an iron can do to a dress! And (thank the Goddess of Steam Irons) my iron never spat once. I am inordinately proud of my pressing job. The dress is complete to a T and safely hanging in the spare bedroom. We’ll carry it to the church tonight along with all the other attire. We’ll cheat Old Man Winter yet.

I cut some greenery yesterday to add to the purchased floral material. It will go into the reception hall. Late in the day I picked up a key to the church from the minister so that we can get in early, both today and tomorrow, without having to bother anyone. Then I went to town to sign time sheets! Yikes, how could I have forgotten that on Wednesday? I looped back by the church just as BD drove up, back from Richmond with flowers. P followed and I spent the early evening helping her unload. She got in one round of baking before we took ourselves home, in the dark, through a misty snow shower.

It was nigh on to 8 o’clock by then and dinner was grazing in the kitchen on your own. I was getting pretty tired, I am sure due to repressed tension. I looked relaxed, but I’m sure inside I was getting tense. I started to work on the gift baskets - one of those mindless physical tasks that can help calm you down and before too long I could feel the knot relax, even if I was also very tired. TheDarlings had left to pick up Ben and A from the train station and at 8:15 they called and said that Ben wasn’t on the train! An hour of phone tag between TheDarlings, Ben and BD soon settled things. The guests showed up here by a little after 10 and I was in bed by 10:30 and asleep almost as soon as my head touched the pillow.

There’s no use telling someone to relax when she’s tense - not even if I am the someone. But I have spent a good bit of time examining how I feel about each issue that comes up, or that might come up (those things one obsess about in the wee hours of the morning) and tried hard to see where concern belongs and where worry is merely dysfunctional behavior. The object of those internal studies is to remove as many issues from my list of ThingsThatCouldGoWrong as possible. I really need to not care, in order to not worry and in order to not care I have to know an issue is not worth caring about.

So, what are the bottom line issues? No matter what else happens, no matter the weather nor the number of guests who can make it to this wedding, the essential things are:

Two people that I love passionately are going to join in marriage, a relationship I have deep respect for and faith in.
Many beloved friends and family will be with us when that happens.
We will entertain them with good food.

Everything else is a non-essential. Everything.
Still, here is my list of you know what:


Additional offerings to WeatherGoddessMake bank transfer, monitor budget & write checks, place in envelopes
Gather greenery
Get manicure
Help with decorating (remember gloves for girls)
Deliver gift baskets
Take wedding clothing for everyone to the church.
Rehearsal Dinner


Shower and do hair
Put on makeup
Be at church by noon
Help Bride with makeup (this is so cute)

posted by Bess | 7:57 AM